How I learned to move on and focus on what matters
As 2025 begins, I’ve been reflecting on how I want to approach this year. What theme should define my days? What intentions should I set? I didn’t have the answers—until recently.
Unexpectedly, clarity came during a workshop at work. Who would’ve thought a simple team session could lead to such a profound realization?
A team effectiveness workshop introduced me to the concept of a “secure base”—a foundation of trust and support that allows us to face fears, embrace vulnerability, and make meaningful changes. As we worked through the exercises, I found myself reflecting on some personal truths that I hadn’t confronted before.
Have you ever clung to something so tightly that it starts to hurt? I have.
Whether it’s in personal relationships or professional connections, there comes a moment when you sense something is off. Maybe someone stops responding to your calls or emails. Or worse, they pretend to care, but your intuition tells you their heart isn’t in it.
For a long time, I’d take this personally. I thought if I just tried harder—persisted longer—I could bridge the gap. But here’s the thing: there’s a fine line between persistence and self-respect. And when you’ve done all you can to maintain a connection, yet meet indifference or insincerity, it’s not failure. It’s a sign to step back.
This realization didn’t come easily. Letting go isn’t in my nature. But during the workshop, as we delved into trust, teamwork, and honesty, I began to see things differently. I understood that releasing connections that no longer serve you isn’t giving up—it’s creating space for what truly matters.
I’ve decided to redirect my energy. Instead of holding on to relationships that feel one-sided, I want to invest in those that inspire positivity, mutual respect, and genuine connection. It feels like shedding unnecessary weight and stepping into something lighter and more freeing.
Interestingly, this lesson reminded me of something I’ve admired about our Dutch culture—the practical, no-nonsense approach to life. Prioritizing simplicity, meaning, and moving forward without unnecessary baggage. It’s a mindset I’ve decided to adopt this year.
As I embrace this new perspective, I feel more open to the possibilities around me. Letting go doesn’t mean losing; it means creating room—for growth, for new connections, for a better version of yourself. So here’s to 2025: a year of meaningful connections, purposeful actions, and a focus on what truly adds value to life.
What about you? Have you ever faced a moment when you knew it was time to let go? I’d love to hear your story.
Jagdeep Kaur
I am an HR professional and a blogger with more than 15 years of experience working in the areas of Leadership Development, General HR, Recruitment, and building start-ups. I live in Amsterdam, The Netherlands, and love to write about my experiences and those of other expats in this beautiful country. My blogs, interviews, and poetry are a pure reflection of my personal interactions, thoughts, and experiences.